I went through 40weeks and 2 days of pregnancy with my beautiful little Zion . However, he was born sleeping March 29th 2011.I went through labor just as if he were breathing that day. I delivered a baby, a life that mattered, but yet that is not what our... legislation says. I was not entitled to a birth or death certificate according to NC state laws. What??? I just gave birth to a 7lb 9oz 20 in. long baby with his daddy's chin and long fingers and his sister's pouty lips. He was perfect and definitely a life , a human being. He was a part of me. How can God's creation not matter. I had to give birth to him , give him a proper memorial service ,I got a whopping hospital bill and dr bills , but for what ??The hospital was not required to give me a birth certificate or death certificate that would acknowledge what we just went through. It's been over 4 months and nothing but a box full of trinkets from the hospital, a locket of his precious black hair and a few pictures for when our memories fade. Please help us as we try to change the legislation of this state. Zion's life did matter to so many of us. Please be one to help change the laws so NC moms that have to give birth to their sleeping babies can have some acknowledgment that their baby's life matters.Thanks for our family and friends we love you and thank you so much for your support throughout the darkest time of our life. Please go to the link and sign the petition!!! http://www.thepetitionsite.com
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Life matters!
I'm posting this with permission from my cousins. If you remember back to March, they lost their sweet baby boy. In NC they don't issue birth nor death certificates for stillborn births. Please read this story, pass it along to others, and sign the petition in hopes that our legislators will see the importance of life! Here's their story:
I went through 40weeks and 2 days of pregnancy with my beautiful little Zion . However, he was born sleeping March 29th 2011.I went through labor just as if he were breathing that day. I delivered a baby, a life that mattered, but yet that is not what our... legislation says. I was not entitled to a birth or death certificate according to NC state laws. What??? I just gave birth to a 7lb 9oz 20 in. long baby with his daddy's chin and long fingers and his sister's pouty lips. He was perfect and definitely a life , a human being. He was a part of me. How can God's creation not matter. I had to give birth to him , give him a proper memorial service ,I got a whopping hospital bill and dr bills , but for what ??The hospital was not required to give me a birth certificate or death certificate that would acknowledge what we just went through. It's been over 4 months and nothing but a box full of trinkets from the hospital, a locket of his precious black hair and a few pictures for when our memories fade. Please help us as we try to change the legislation of this state. Zion's life did matter to so many of us. Please be one to help change the laws so NC moms that have to give birth to their sleeping babies can have some acknowledgment that their baby's life matters.Thanks for our family and friends we love you and thank you so much for your support throughout the darkest time of our life. Please go to the link and sign the petition!!! http://www.thepetitionsite.com/3/certificate-of-birth-resulting-in-stillbirth-in-north-carolina/
I went through 40weeks and 2 days of pregnancy with my beautiful little Zion . However, he was born sleeping March 29th 2011.I went through labor just as if he were breathing that day. I delivered a baby, a life that mattered, but yet that is not what our... legislation says. I was not entitled to a birth or death certificate according to NC state laws. What??? I just gave birth to a 7lb 9oz 20 in. long baby with his daddy's chin and long fingers and his sister's pouty lips. He was perfect and definitely a life , a human being. He was a part of me. How can God's creation not matter. I had to give birth to him , give him a proper memorial service ,I got a whopping hospital bill and dr bills , but for what ??The hospital was not required to give me a birth certificate or death certificate that would acknowledge what we just went through. It's been over 4 months and nothing but a box full of trinkets from the hospital, a locket of his precious black hair and a few pictures for when our memories fade. Please help us as we try to change the legislation of this state. Zion's life did matter to so many of us. Please be one to help change the laws so NC moms that have to give birth to their sleeping babies can have some acknowledgment that their baby's life matters.Thanks for our family and friends we love you and thank you so much for your support throughout the darkest time of our life. Please go to the link and sign the petition!!! http://www.thepetitionsite.com
Friday, October 29, 2010
Positive thinking
Tommy and I had the privilege of attending a dinner auction benefit for cystic fibrosis last night. It was a lot of fun. Tommy ended up with two fishing poles by the time the night was over :) One will be an early birthday present for my dad.
One of my student's has cystic fibrosis and I never really knew much about it until her mom came in to talk to us. It's a pretty scary and serious disease that affects so many children. One of the men who spoke last night was very encouraging in his words. He was diagnosed with CF at age 2 and had a double lung transplant 20 years ago. He is the longest living survivor of a double lung transplant. Anyways, during his speech, he said his parents were always positive. He said he never knew how to think any other way. He said of course he was nervous when the time came for transplant but he just thought to himself, this will work. He said the best advice he can give is to think positive and believe in impossibilities.
Those few words rang so true in so many areas of our lives. My heart hurts for people going through diseases, cancer, and then of course IF. When I look back now, I see how IF has changed us and while we didn't know it before, it has changed us for the good. We started this process almost 4 years ago, so I've been there. I've cried over those negative pregnancy tests, mourned the loss of our babies, and felt frustrated when all seemed out of control. Almost 2 years ago (next Saturday), we transferred our last frozen embryo. It didn't work and it was after that time that we felt God pulling us in another direction. We knew we couldn't go through more treatments.
There are many people around us right now that are pregnant. I am truly excited for them but I hope they bask in the blessing that God has given them. I think so many people take that for granted. See the last post for more on that!
This week has been a good one. I have received many notes, emails, calls etc from friends and family just to let us know that they were praying for us and thinking about us. That gives me hope and keeps us going on this journey.
Just an update about our hairdresser's friends in the car accident. The husband is still in ICU; they had to remove half of his skull because of the swelling in the brain. They are not sure yet how much brain damage there is. He still doesn't know that his wife is gone. Please continue to pray for their families.
Tomorrow we have our much anticipated, long awaited, trip to try indoor skydiving with my best friend. I can't wait to try it out!
One of my student's has cystic fibrosis and I never really knew much about it until her mom came in to talk to us. It's a pretty scary and serious disease that affects so many children. One of the men who spoke last night was very encouraging in his words. He was diagnosed with CF at age 2 and had a double lung transplant 20 years ago. He is the longest living survivor of a double lung transplant. Anyways, during his speech, he said his parents were always positive. He said he never knew how to think any other way. He said of course he was nervous when the time came for transplant but he just thought to himself, this will work. He said the best advice he can give is to think positive and believe in impossibilities.
Those few words rang so true in so many areas of our lives. My heart hurts for people going through diseases, cancer, and then of course IF. When I look back now, I see how IF has changed us and while we didn't know it before, it has changed us for the good. We started this process almost 4 years ago, so I've been there. I've cried over those negative pregnancy tests, mourned the loss of our babies, and felt frustrated when all seemed out of control. Almost 2 years ago (next Saturday), we transferred our last frozen embryo. It didn't work and it was after that time that we felt God pulling us in another direction. We knew we couldn't go through more treatments.
There are many people around us right now that are pregnant. I am truly excited for them but I hope they bask in the blessing that God has given them. I think so many people take that for granted. See the last post for more on that!
This week has been a good one. I have received many notes, emails, calls etc from friends and family just to let us know that they were praying for us and thinking about us. That gives me hope and keeps us going on this journey.
Just an update about our hairdresser's friends in the car accident. The husband is still in ICU; they had to remove half of his skull because of the swelling in the brain. They are not sure yet how much brain damage there is. He still doesn't know that his wife is gone. Please continue to pray for their families.
Tomorrow we have our much anticipated, long awaited, trip to try indoor skydiving with my best friend. I can't wait to try it out!
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Taking things for granted
My eyes were opened yesterday. My heart was filled with sorrow and regret at all of the things I've taken for granted. I'm very blessed and often times I go through life and don't realize just how fortunate I am. Almost 8 years ago, Tommy went into cardiac arrest and I was blessed that his life wasn't taken. After some time had passed, you tend to "forget" about those feelings because you get consumed with the day to day. Yesterday that reminder came back.
Our hairdresser is a great friend. We love him just like he's a part of our family. We learned yesterday that his co-worker, she's in the booth right next to him, was tragically killed in a car accident. 30 years old. Her husband is fighting for his life, in critical condition with possible brain injury and he doesn't even know that his wife is gone. I can't imagine. We would often talk to her when we were getting haircuts and she was so sweet. They were trying to have a baby. Like a lot of us, they had problems and she had just begun taking fertility drugs. All of that doesn't even matter anymore.
Even though we really weren't that close to her, it made my heart hurt. It made me take a close look at my life and realize just how blessed we really are. I'm so, so thankful that my Tommy is still here. I can't imagine my life without him.
I think we get so bottled down in the day to day, whether it be wondering when "the call" is going to come or that positive pregnancy test or a new job, that we forget about the blessings. We forget to just stop.......and realize what we really do have.
Hug your family a little tighter tonight and bask in the blessings God has given all of us.
Our hairdresser is a great friend. We love him just like he's a part of our family. We learned yesterday that his co-worker, she's in the booth right next to him, was tragically killed in a car accident. 30 years old. Her husband is fighting for his life, in critical condition with possible brain injury and he doesn't even know that his wife is gone. I can't imagine. We would often talk to her when we were getting haircuts and she was so sweet. They were trying to have a baby. Like a lot of us, they had problems and she had just begun taking fertility drugs. All of that doesn't even matter anymore.
Even though we really weren't that close to her, it made my heart hurt. It made me take a close look at my life and realize just how blessed we really are. I'm so, so thankful that my Tommy is still here. I can't imagine my life without him.
I think we get so bottled down in the day to day, whether it be wondering when "the call" is going to come or that positive pregnancy test or a new job, that we forget about the blessings. We forget to just stop.......and realize what we really do have.
Hug your family a little tighter tonight and bask in the blessings God has given all of us.
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